There is often discussion about the effects people’s words have on others. I have taken to considering the way my words affect and reflect me personally.
In general, I tend to avoid saying negative things. Since I enjoy being around positive people, I try to emulate that type of behavior.
It’s not about being disingenuously perky. It’s more actively choosing not to see the worst in most situations.
Since I am not by nature a glass half-full kind of gal, it takes work for me to maintain genuinely optimistic speech. Opportunities to complain abound in this world, but I prefer to challenge myself not to do so.
When I consciously avoid negative speech I notice a general improvement in my spirit. Similarly, keeping my spirit in check is the best way for me to avoid negative language.
Language has power. There are so many words at our disposal that the ones we choose are significant.
There is meaning if I am unable to conjure truly positive words to describe certain aspects of my life. It reflects my spirit if everything I say is a comparison to something negative.
If rather than rested, I’m less tired than usual. If instead of being excited about going somewhere, I’m relieved I don’t have to stay where I am.
By the same token, negative speech can actually dampen my mood even if I am feeling pretty neutral to start.
On the other hand, intentionally choosing positive words buoys my spirit. It makes my brain go to its happy place.
It obligates me to consider the bright side of things before I open my mouth. Since I like to talk, that’s a lot of positivity flowing through my consciousness on a regular basis.
By actively seeking constructive words at all times I find them more easily. My spirit is more in tune with a positive way of thinking.
This evaluation of my speech has also made me recognize the appropriateness of silence. Rather than rehashing every source of discontentment, I have the totally reasonable option of saying nothing.
I am only human so I definitely fall prey to the negativity monster at times. It’s even cathartic to get legitimate gripes off my chest every once in a while.
However, thinking about and then verbalizing how to improve a negative situation feeds my spirit more. It produces hope.
The language of hope is always positive. It reflects a belief in possibilities and opportunities.
When I am in a less than optimal circumstance, I have to trust it is only a part of the road that leads to my overall well-being. That hopeful outlook is the best way for me to remain positive in spirit and in speech.
What does your way of speaking reflect about your spirit?
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Dr Jattu Senesie is a board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist, certified success coach, physician satisfaction specialist and speaker. She blogs about issues of self care and well-being in an effort to help her fellow altruistic high achievers find satisfaction in their success as early in their careers as possible.
Positive words are encouraging to the person speaking them and the one receiving it. I don’t consider myself a negative person but I know I can be more positive. I am going to challenge myself to speak more positively. Oprah once encouraged her followers to keep a journal and only journal your positive experience of the day (nothing negative). I have always wanted to try it, now after reading your blog, I am going to give it try.
I’m glad the blog post encouraged you to be more conscious about being positive. I think being intentional is the key.
Thanks for that reminder. We need to be reminded about what we say and how we say it. I support what Yeatie said. Being positive in all suitations helps not only the hearer but yourself. I like the quotes you sighted because they are so true. The bible also tells us that “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold, in settings of silver.” Proverbs 12:11. With the help of God,I will try to think before I speak.
You are very welcome. I’m glad the article resonated with you.