THE I CAN’T BE EXEMPTION

THE I CAN’T BE EXEMPTION

I think one of my biggest insights from 2020 is the need to stop automatically excusing myself from possible prejudicial behavior based on my demographic characteristics or personal experiences. I can’t be sexist, because I’m a woman. I can’t be racist, because I’m...
BEYOND TOLERABLY USEFUL WORK

BEYOND TOLERABLY USEFUL WORK

As we navigate this final quarter of 2020, I’ve been considering how our state of being impacts our work satisfaction. Most of us have shifted how we work this year. For some of us, the process of shifting exposed some underlying mismatches between how we have...
BLACK PEOPLE STAY EXHAUSTED

BLACK PEOPLE STAY EXHAUSTED

As a black person in America, I have a constant underlying sense of unease. Periodically, there is a news story, or several, to remind me why that unease exists. Whether you are a Harvard-educated ornithology enthusiast or a possible forgery suspect, there is an...
EQUIPPED FOR A CHALLENGE

EQUIPPED FOR A CHALLENGE

One the most challenging parts of my recovery from an adult life of pathological altruism is successfully releasing the struggle narrative. As a black woman who is the child of immigrants to the USA, there is a lingering subconscious belief my cultural heritage...
LIFE IS TOO SHORT

LIFE IS TOO SHORT

Life is too short to be miserable by choice. That may seem obvious. However, I know far too many people who choose that option by default. I was one of them for a long time. I felt like misery was being foisted upon me without consent or recourse. In reality, I didn’t...